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Someone asked:
So do MAPs fall out of love with the children they’re attracted to once they grow up?-
Anemoen (Lecter A.A. Wierstamann) replied:
Some do, some don’t. Same as teleios when their crushes start aging. It depends on specifics of one’s preference more than on the exact age of attraction.
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Someone asked:
Hello, I hope this question isn’t too insensitive but I am curious about trans-ageness. Is age dysphoria a thing? What does it feel like for you? And how does being trans-age interest with your other non-normative identities? Many thanks!-
I actually have a post about this https://wierstamann.net/2023/07/06/my-yto-transage-experience/ I don’t really touch identity overlaps there, but it does feel very comparable to my transgender identity. I feel like embracing dangerous creep stereotypes is about both being a man and being older for me.
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Someone asked:
I have some questions that I feel I need to educate myself on. I’m new to this community, mostly a lurker. I came from a place of hate and finally now I understand. Can you be a pedophile, but feel attraction to children not in a exactly…sexual way? More like romantic attraction or idk… like in a nurturing way? Idk how can I explain that… in a non-sexual way? Or the sexual attraction is needed for pedophilia? Can you still feel attraction to children but adults too? Can it be, primarly an attraction to adults but also to children? If yes, how would you be called? Is pedophile correct? Or pedophile is a term only for people who are primarly attracted to children, like, their “focus” of attraction? Sorry for the million questions, I’m still learning.-
Sorry for not replying to this question for so long. These questions get lost in spam. Yes ace maps exist – I am not ace myself, but I am acespec, and I always first fall for someone romantically, sexually later. Being attracted to both adults and children may be referred to as being non exclusive, and it’s a pretty common experience. And any amount of attraction to children you personally feel is significant enough means you can call yourself a map.
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Someone asked:
Hey Lecter, I am a non-offending nepiophile (18 months to 6 years), and I feel like there’s very few of us in the MAP community compared to others. Not sure if you’re going to answer this, but is there anywhere to read MAP erotic-fiction online? It’s mostly protected by free speech (though governments care less and less about that), and I’d rather that than any kind of material that is illegal and might show children suffering actual abuse.-
For now I’d recommend “extreme underage” tags on Archive Of Our Own.
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Someone asked:
Lecter, I wish you well. I’ve fallen head over hind legs for you. I love everything you stand for and advocate for. Life best be treating you well, liebe, Fraulin.-
Thank you. Are you a therian? I’ve never seen the “hind legs” expression from a non-therian.
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Someone asked:
If teens are 11–17, then why does “teen” porn contain 18 and 19 year olds?-
Porn does not reflect reality adequately.
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Someone asked:
Previous asker on objectum. You’re right. I agree. I guess my desire comes from the view to be seen as more legitimate which is a trait of trying to conform rather than change the initial view that “fetish” doesn’t mean less and/or trivial. Good points. I didn’t mean for it to be that way of “less” and was somewhat biased (still somewhat am, but perhaps more willing on progress on this). Fetishists are not less. It was a desire of wanting acceptance, probably but I see rereading that it came from a flawed view of trying to acclimate to existing ideas rather than push for change of no attraction being superior or inferior.-
I wasn’t trying to accuse you of bigotry, I’m sorry if my response came across as harsh. Also, got your CC ask. My blog was down, it does this periodically.
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Someone asked:
Regarding your graphic on kinks, fetishes and other (with specifiers for age, gender, species, etc). Pretty cool graphic. Though, I had some thoughts on it which I will share. The graphic puts objects in the fetish category and while to obviously entirely categorize sexuality would be very difficult (and I think the graphic was pretty decent overall) so I can understand this (and there are plenty of cases of it being more “fetishism” rather than more sexual orientation-like), there is that in which is beyond the level of the typical boundary of fetish as in objectum sexuality. Those who have attraction near identical (except for the subject) to other biological being subjects. There is also the category of those with spirtual beliefs or otherwise beliefs/perceptions in which objects are MORE THAN “just objects” as in consciousness, sentience, individuality and such. Additionally, “fetish” doesn’t really apply for experiences of romantic attractions to objects. The boundary for “fetish” and “sexuality” with objects is a bit tough since it’s not really often taken seriously enough to have clear definitions. Might be that “sexuality” involves MORE attachment (in my investigations of how it may be defined by others and mineself) and of course, more clear in the situations of romantic attractions. I’m mostly rambling here and it’s not too well thought out overall so some stuff in which I say might be a bit “iffy”/could be expanded upon (which I will realize after I submit, of course). I’m not trying to promote any certain change but rather mention this to see how it is you see it as well and all, because I am curious mostly. (More of a “I feel compelled to write something on it” than a “I have a notable specific idea which I want to convey” circumstance) Additionally: on NNIA, explained simply what’s the difference between .space and .cc? Should a .space-r sign up for .cc instead?-
A fetish is a type of sexuality that’s defined as an attraction to non reproductive body parts or inanimate objects. It can be sexual romantic, both, or neither. Seeing it as something inherently less profound or more shallow than an average person’s sexuality is a type of paramisia. “Objectum” is just a different name for objectophilia, I say it as an objectophile who’s capable of a large spectrum of attractions and long term relationships with objects. Nnia.cc is an extension of nnia.space that appeared after the Newgon admin threatened to take us down. The main difference is that it’s completely closed off from the rest of fediverse. You can use either or both.
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Someone asked:
What does “anti-contact” mean to you? Could you define it? /genuine question-
Against direct involvement of someone under 16 into sexual or romantic life of someone significantly older (5 and more years older). An older person accessing pornography that features the younger person counts as direct involvement.
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Someone asked:
How do you feel your ASPD impacts your relationships or how you perceive relationships, if it impacts them at all?-
It’s hard to say which part is the ASPD and which part is other aspects of me. I know feeling something in tune with my partners does not come naturally to me, but that’s pretty generic.
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